第二十三章  坚持与放手

CHAPTER TWENTY-THREE  HOLDING ON AND LETTING GO

 

“我们爱的时候，不仅自身处于欢乐之中，还会使自己的生活一片和谐。”——莱斯特•利文森

"When we love, not only are we happy, but our whole life is in harmony."

Lester Levenson

 

对坚持的贪爱

ATTACHMENT TO HOLDING ON

我们来观察一下自己对坚持的贪爱吧。如果我们没有处处坚持的话，早就学会放手了。所以，观察和认清自己为什么把一切都紧紧握在手中不放不失为一个好主意，也许能够借此机会弄清楚一些东西呢。

 

Let's take a look at attachment to holding on. If we weren't holding on, we'd be letting go all the time. So it's a good idea to take a look and discriminate as to why we hold on to everything so as to achieve some clarity.

 

对坚持的贪爱

意识洪流

（只要让你的头脑围绕这一贪爱自由活动，将想法都写下来，将它们归到想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全妥当的三大欲望之下，然后把欲望释放掉。）

 

ATTACHMENT TO HOLDING ON

Stream of Consciousness:

(Just let your mind think of things about the attachment. Write them down and see what you wrote or thought as wanting approval, wanting control, or wanting to be safe or secure and then release the want.)

 

坚持会给我带来什么好处呢？

What advantage is it to me to hold on?

_______________________________________

坚持会给我带来什么坏处呢？

What disadvantage is it to me to hold on?

_______________________________________

 

1、  想象你永远、永远都不能再坚持什么了。（将其在你胸腹之间激起的紧抓不放的感觉或抗拒感释放。重复释放，直到没有剩余。）

2、  我能把自己对坚持的所有贪爱都放下吗？（持续释放，直到你能够毫不犹豫、毫不抗拒地给出一个百分之百肯定的答案。）

 

1. Imagine never, ever being able to hold on. (Let go of clutching or resisting the feeling it brings up in your stomach or chest. Keep releasing until there are no more feelings in your stomach or chest.)

2. Could I let go of my entire attachment to holding on? (Keep letting go until you can say "yes" 100% with no clutching or resistance.)

 

所以，坚持会给你带来什么好处呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？不管是什么，你能把它放下吗？坚持会给你带来什么坏处呢？这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗？你能把这些“想要”都放下吗？坚持会给你带来什么好处呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？不管什么被激发了，你能把它放下吗？坚持会给你带来什么坏处呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？在往下进行之前持续对此释放。

现在我们来问问自己“榨柠檬”的问题吧。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再坚持什么了，即使想也做不到了。看着想法是否在你胸腹之间激起了一种紧抓感或是抗拒感，一股无用能量。垂下头，把手覆在胸腹之间，让那股能量穿过你离去吧。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再坚持什么了，不管你有多想都不行。看着想法是否激起了一股无用能量，有的话就让它穿过你离去吧。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再坚持什么了，就是不能了。看着想法是否激起了你的紧抓感、抗拒感，是否在你胸腹之间激起了一股无用能量。只要允许那股能量穿过你离开就好了。持续释放，直到你对此完全清楚了再往下继续。

 

So what advantage is it for you to hold on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what disadvantage is it for you to hold on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of wanting approval, control or safety? And what advantage is it for you to hold on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what disadvantage is it for you to hold on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of wanting approval, control or safety? Continue releasing on this topic before moving on to the next question.

 

Now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to hold on again. You couldn't do it if you wanted to. See if that stirs up a clutching, a resisting, an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest area. Put your head down or your hand on your stomach or chest area and allow that energy to pass through. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to hold on again. You couldn't do it if you wanted to. See if that stirs up an unwanted energy and allow that energy to pass through. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to hold on again. You can't do it. See if it brings up a clutching, a resistance, an unwanted energy in your stomach or your chest. Just allow that energy to pass through. Continue releasing until you're clean on the question before moving on.

 

你能否把自己对坚持的全部贪爱都放下呢？如果你说“是”的时候心生抗拒，就关注一下你的胸腹之间，看那里是否有一股无用能量，以紧抓感或是抗拒感的形式出现。就把那能量释放掉吧。

你能把自己对坚持的所有贪爱都放下吗？不管你心中翻涌着怎样的抗拒感，就继续释放它，直到你能给出一个百分之百肯定的答复。

 

Could you let go of your entire attachment to holding on? If you're resisting saying "yes," notice if there's an unwanted energy in your stomach or your chest--a clutching, a resistance. Just let go of this unwanted energy.

 

And could you let go of your entire attachment to holding on? And whatever resistance is there, just continue to let go until you can say "yes" 100%.

 

对坚持的憎恶

意识洪流

（只要让你的头脑围绕这一憎恶自由活动，将想法都写下来，将它们归到想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全妥当的三大欲望之下，然后把欲望释放掉。）

 

AVERSION TO HOLDING ON

Stream of Consciousness:

(Just let your mind think of things about the aversion. Write it down and see what you wrote or thought as wanting approval, wanting control, or wanting to be safe or secure and then release the want.)

 

我喜欢坚持的哪一点？

What do I like about holding on?

_________________________

我不喜欢坚持的哪一点？

What don't I like about holding on?

_________________________

 

1、想象你在任何事情上都要坚持到底，停都停不下来。（将它在你胸腹之间引起的紧抓感或抗拒感释放掉。重复释放，直到胸腹之间没有任何感觉留下。）

2、  我能否把自己对坚持的所有憎恶都放下呢？（重复释放，直到你能毫不犹豫、毫不抗拒地给出一个百分之百肯定的答复。）

 

1. Imagine always holding on to everything and you can't stop. (Keep releasing until there are no more feelings in your stomach or chest.)

 

2. Could I let go of my entire aversion to holding on? (Keep letting go until you can say "yes" 100% with no clutching or resistance.)

 

对坚持的憎恶

AVERSION TO HOLDING ON

 

好，你喜欢坚持的哪一点呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？你能把这欲望放下吗？你不喜欢坚持的哪一点呢？这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗？你能把这种“想要”放下吗？你喜欢坚持的哪一点呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？不管是哪个，你能放下吗？你不喜欢坚持的哪一点呢？你能把它放下吗？

你喜欢坚持的哪一点呢？这想法让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗？你能把这些“想要”放下吗？持续释放，直到你对坚持再没有什么喜欢和不喜欢了。

 

So what do you like about holding on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what don't you like about holding on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what do you like about holding on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what don't you like about holding on? Could you just let it go?

 

What do you like about holding on? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of these wants? Continue letting go until you have no more likes or dislikes with regard to holding on.

 

现在我们来问问自己“榨柠檬”的问题吧。想象你永远要在任何事情上坚持到底，停都停不下来，你下半辈子就得这样过了。看着想法是否在你胸腹之间激起了某种紧抓感、抗拒感，无用能量？就让它穿过你离去吧。它自己也是想要离开的，它不好，也不坏——它只是一股路过的能量。想象你永远要对任何事情坚持到底了，停都停不下来，你不得不永远这样下去。看看是否有某种紧抓感或是抗拒感被激发了，就让它离开吧。你无法停止了。就让那能量浮上表面，穿过你离开吧。持续释放，直到你对这个问题百分之百地清楚了再往下继续。

你能放下自己对坚持的全部憎恶吗？如果你在说“是”的时候有所抗拒或犹豫不决，就让那能量离开吧。你能否把自己对坚持的全部憎恶都放下了？就只是让那股能量离开？持续释放，直到你能百分之百、毫不抗拒地给出一个肯定的答复。

 

And now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question. Imagine always holding on to everything. You can't stop. You're going to have to do it for the rest of your life. See if that brings up a clutching, a resistance, an unwanted energy in your stomach or your chest area and just allow it to pass through. It wants to leave. It's not good, it's not bad--it's just energy passing through. Imagine always holding on to everything. You can't stop You're going to have to do it forever. If there's any clutching or resistance, just allow it to leave. You can't stop. Just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. Continue releasing until you are 100% clean on this question and then move on.

 

Could you let go of your entire aversion to holding on? If there's any resistance to saying "yes" or clutching, just allow that energy to leave. Could you let go of your entire aversion to holding on and just allow the energy to leave? Continue releasing until you can answer the question 100% with no resistance.

 

对放手的贪爱

意识洪流

（只要让你的头脑围绕这一贪爱自由活动，将想法都写下来，将它们归到想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全妥当的三大欲望之下，然后把欲望释放掉。）

 

ATTACHMENT TO LETTING GO

Stream of Consciousness:

(Just let your mind think of things about the attachment. Write it down and see what you wrote or thought of as wanting approval, wanting control, or wanting to be safe or secure and then release the want.)

 

我喜欢放手的哪一点呢？

What do I like about letting go?

______________________________________

我不喜欢放手的哪一点呢？

What don't I like about letting go?

______________________________________

 

1、  想象你永远都要对任何事情放手，无法停止。（将其在你胸腹之间激起的紧抓不放的感觉或抗拒感释放。重复释放，直到没有剩余。）

2、我能否将自己对放手的所有贪爱都释放掉？（持续释放，直到你能够毫不犹豫、毫不抗拒地给出一个百分之百肯定的答案。）

 

1. Imagine always having to let go of everything--you can't stop. (Let go of clutching or resisting the feeling it brings up in your stomach or chest. Keep releasing until there are no more feelings in your stomach or chest.)

 

2. Could I let go of my entire aversion to letting go? (Keep letting go until you can say "yes" 100% with no clutching or resistance.)

 

现在我们来观察一下自己对放手的贪爱吧。放手会给你带来什么好处？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？不管是哪个，你能把它放下吗？放手会给你带来什么坏处呢？这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗？不管是哪个“想要”，你能把它放下吗？放手会给你带来什么好处呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？不管什么被激发了，你能把它放下吗？放手会给你带来什么坏处呢？这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗？你能只是把它放下吗？持续释放，直到你再也想不出新的好处或是坏处了，然后继续。

现在我们来问一下自己“榨柠檬”的问题吧。想象你永远、永远都不能再对什么放手了，就是做不到了。看这想法是否在你胸腹之间激起了一种紧抓感或是抗拒感。就让它穿过你离开吧——它自己也是想要离开的。它不好也不坏，只不过是股路过的能量。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再对什么放手了，你失去了这种能力。不管这激起了哪种能量，请你只是把它释放掉。

 

And now let's look at the attachment to letting go. What advantage is it for you to let go? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And whichever want that gets stirred up, could you just let it go? And what disadvantage is it for you to let go? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And whichever want that gets stirred up, could you just allow it to leave? And what advantage is it for you to let go? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of those wants? And what disadvantage is it for you to let go? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And whichever want that gets stirred up, could you just let it go? Continue releasing until you have no more advantages or disadvantages coming up. Then move on.

 

And now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question. Imagine never, ever being able to let go again. You can't do it. See if that brings up a clutching in your stomach or chest area, a resistance. Just allow it to pass through. It wants to leave. It's not good, it's not bad, it's just energy passing through. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to let go again. You've lost the ability. And whichever energy that brings up, just let it go.

 

对放手的憎恶

意识洪流

（只要让你的头脑围绕这一憎恶自由活动，将想法都写下来，将它们归到想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全妥当的三大欲望之下，然后把欲望释放掉。）

 

AVERSION TO LETTING GO

Stream of Consciousness:

(Just let your mind think of things about the aversion. Write it down and see. What you wrote or thought as wanting approval, wanting control or wanting to be safe and secure and then release the want.)

 

我喜欢放手的哪一点呢？

What do I like about letting go?

_________________________

我不喜欢放手的哪一点呢？

What don't I like about letting go?

_________________________

 

1、想象你永远都要对任何事情放手，无法停止。（将它在你胸腹之间引起的紧抓感或抗拒感释放掉。重复释放，直到胸腹之间没有任何感觉留下。）

2、我能否把自己对放手的所有憎恶都放下呢？（重复释放，直到你能毫不犹豫、毫不抗拒地给出一个百分之百肯定的答复。）

 

1. Imagine always having to let go of everything and you can't stop. (Let go of clutching or resisting the feeling it brings up in your stomach or your chest. Keep releasing until there are no more feelings in your stomach or chest.)

2. Could I let go of my entire aversion to letting go? (Keep letting go until you can say "yes" 100% with no clutching or resistance.)