人际关系的首要法则

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摘要: 不当的行为是可宽恕的，但也不应一味姑息…      文 / Rajpur  译者/若水  不当的行为是可宽恕的，但也不应一味姑息   "Bad behavior can be forgiven, but the behavior must change."   亲爱的朋友：     俗云：「 和谐的秩序乃是天堂的首要法则」，你无须容忍人际关系中的暧昧与不实。如果每个人只想「活出自己」，只会导致混乱与无情。当人际关系缺乏了谅解与共识时，便失去它存在的意义了。     独立，并不是人类进化的新里程碑，它缺少了彼此担当的愿心，因此切勿任它无声无息地侵蚀你们的关系，也不要去打击那些拒受它摆布的有志之士。   不当的行为是可宽恕的，但也不应一味姑息。不当的行为，不只损伤了维系人类文明以及社会和谐的基本架构，还会伤害正在逐渐改善的人际关系。   Dear friends,   It has been said that, "Order is heaven's first law." You should have no patience with vague or nonexistent structures in relationships. Everyone "just being themselves" is chaotic, insensitive, and lacks the elements of cooperation and mutual understanding which are essential to the very meaning of the word "relationships."   Independence - the absence of willing obligation, one to another - does not constitute the new wave of progress in evolution. So, don't let it creep into your relationships unchallenged, or judge those who have enough courage to refuse to be abused by it.   "Bad behavior can be forgiven, but the behavior must change, else bad behavior becomes acceptable, undermining all that forms the foundation for civilization and social harmony, not to mention improved interpersonal relationships."   Rajpur
Kingston, WashingtonJanuary 10, 2002   转自：奇迹课程中文部  Rajpur 专栏2008/6/13