海文模式 (转)

伽凡—福州

You may have wondered what is necessary to facilitate personal development work such as that provided by Haven, and whether you might have what it takes to do this. Our intention here is to provide a brief answer to that question.

你也许一直都在考虑这样一个问题：我想从事一份个人成长的工作，从课堂上学习到的海文知识，怎么用到工作中。如果从事这样的工作，我是否具有相对应的特质。这篇文章里面，我们想给大家提供一些参考。


Haven group leaders are required to learn a broad range of information about Eastern and Western approaches to psychology, body, and energy. However, as well as integrating a variety of skills and techniques, these people have spent many years developing personal qualities needed to be successful. Each person must possess deep knowledge of themselves.

在加拿大海文，导师的标准是非常严格的。要成为海文的导师，首先是知识的积累，每位导师必须学习大量的东西方哲学、心理学、肢体、能量等方面的知识，并且将这些知识融会贯通。除去掌握大量专业的知识与技能外，更重要的是每一位导师都花了很多年去探索和发展可以令其成为优秀导师的人格特质。除此之外，海文的导师还必须对自身有深刻的认知。



There is no standardized formula to define exactly what is needed, since each person is different. The uniqueness of the individual is itself an important ingredient. Over time each leader develops their own style in congruence with their unique personality, talents, intelligence and life experience.

在海文的理念中，每个人都是独一无二的宝藏，所以成为海文的导师，并不存在一个放之四海皆准的标准。体验、觉察，发现自己的个性、才干、智慧，圆融具足，才能真正成为一个导师。



Here are some of the personal qualities that we believe are crucial to develop if you are interested in working with people in the Haven style:

如果你想成为一个导师，同时把“海文学派”的理念用在工作、生活中，我们列出了一些我们认为比较重要的特质，仅供参考。



Authenticity: Coming out from behind your defenses and your roles to relate to others with honesty, vulnerability and caring.

真诚：放下角色的盔甲和盔甲，放下防御，用真诚的关爱和他人建立连接，同时呈现脆弱。



Compassion: Accepting yourself as you actually are rather than playing an ideal role, and also accepting others for who they actually are so that they are inspired to value themselves.

慈悲：接受真正的那个自己（真我），而不是仅仅在生活中扮演理想中的自己（理想我），同样，学会接纳他人，鼓励别人自我疼惜。



Self-Responsibility: Becoming aware of how you participate in life, making choices based on this knowledge, and accepting the consequences of your actions. Holding other people as capable of being responsible participants in their own life.

自我负责：对自己的生命充满觉察，为自己的生命做出选择，也能承担选择的后果。认为他人也能为自己的选择负责。



Presence: Valuing life here and now rather than only striving to achieve a particular outcome in the future.

当下：尊重当下的感受，体验当下的价值，而不仅仅是为了未来的某个目标奋斗。



Inclusiveness: Focusing on both yourself and the other, rather than exclusively on self (only what “I” want, how “I” feel) or exclusively on other (by blaming or taking care of them).

包容：同时关注自己和他人，而不是只关注自己，或者只关注他人的感受。



Embodiment: Being aware of and acknowledging body sensations, feelings, movement, and intuition as resources for making choices and decisions. This requires experience with how breathing is integrated with ch’i, emotions and patterns of behavior.

肢体觉察：对身体感受、心理感受、肢体运动还有直觉等保持高度的觉察，并且根据觉察做出决定和选择。这部分特质需要和海文的呼吸、“气”、情绪行为模式等方面的知识整合。



Heartfelt relating: Using clear, personal, direct communication, and defining effective boundaries, even when it might cause discomfort.

用心连接：用清晰、个性化和直接的交流方式，同时建立清晰有效的界限，尽管这可能会引起连接双方的不舒服。



Curiosity: Diminishing your defensiveness, and remaining open to differences; being willing to learn more about self and other in every circumstance.

好奇心：放下自己的防卫机制，对他人保持敞开，在任何环境下保持一颗敞开的心。



Clear Personal Boundaries: Willing and able to model what you are teaching by conducting your emotions and your behavior maturely, ethically and respectfully.

清晰的个人界限：用成熟、合乎道德标准、尊重的态度分享自己的感受、行为模式，从而引导学员体验和学习。


Haven places a high value on authentic relating as an important path to personal development, and this is reflected in the qualities you see above. Information and techniques are important, but not enough. Attempting to change people, or to achieve an ideal condition actually gets in the way of growth. Working with people in the Haven style means risking vulnerability, revealing self, seeing others clearly, and trusting in the process.

真诚地和他人建立连接，在海文被放在一个很高的位置，同时这也是自我修行的一种很好的办法，而这些，都反映在上述所说的这些特质中了。理论和技巧是很重要的，但是理论和技巧并不是自我成长的全部。试图去改别他人，或者为了达成某一个理想的情形，都会一定程度上阻碍心灵成长。成为一个“海文学派”导师，意味着呈现脆弱，呈现真实的自己，清楚地看见别人，在过程中建立信任。


Maybe this kind of work is for you.

些许分享，希望能够帮助到大家。