Q #30瘾头与嗜好

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   摘要: 最有益的方法便是，只是看着你在接受圣灵选择时的不情愿以及觉得耶稣的爱不能满足你的感受，然后不谴责自己这些感觉。持续地对自己和耶稣诚实，了解自己多么不想相信和接受这个课程的教导，并且不要为此而批判自己。  

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问：我很爱玩计算机游戏。但我想，总有一天我得戒掉这个嗜好，因为我想要圣灵的选择。我还有另一个嗜好，几乎可说是一种「瘾」了；这个瘾，把我完全抽离正念，它给我一种快感和刺激，但也有副作用、损害及可以料想得到的负担等等。当我在耶稣陪伴下看着这个瘾，我真的一点也不想要它了，但截至目前为止，我仍未做此选择，我仍不情愿放下这些事情，它们和奇迹课程冲突…。【耶稣】常陪海伦买鞋，但也建议她要放下这嗜好…。
  
答: 请记得，这是个过程。对大部份的我们来说，需要相当长的一段时间，而在这过程里，耐心和温柔地对待自己是非常重要的部份，否则，我们又会落入小我把问题当真的陷阱里了。
  
在「作决定的原则」（正文第三十章）一开头，耶稣便给我们一则重要的忠告：「不要与你自己交战」。(T-30.I.1:7)
  
因此，最有益的方法便是，只是看着你在接受圣灵选择时的不情愿以及觉得耶稣的爱不能满足你的感受，然后不谴责自己这些感觉。持续地对自己和耶稣诚实，了解自己多么不想相信和接受这个课程的教导，并且不要为此而批判自己。
  
如果你能做到这点，对你未来操练奇迹课程会更有效果。这就是宽恕的真义。你慢慢会了解到你所指控的「罪」起不了任何作用，它只是一个小小的疯狂念头，根本无法改变那个大爱的。
  
耶稣所关心的，只是事件的「目的」。因此，当海伦不再需要用「购物之瘾」来保护自己，以躲避耶稣的爱时，表示她已准备好改变购物癖的「目的」了。
  
当我们接受耶稣之爱的恐惧减轻时，我们抵制爱的防卫措施也会跟着减轻；某些特殊习性也许仍会持续，但它们的「目的」已全然转变了。关键永远在于实质内容（content），而非外在形式（form）。
  
平安或冲突的心态其实与事件或行为无关。平安或冲突，只看我们选择耶稣或小我为师而定。
  
最后，针对「成瘾」的状况而言，一般来说，是需要先处理行为层次，也就是采取一些措施设法减轻或停止这类破坏性行为。这反映出心灵决定更爱自己与他人的取向。
  
当这些行为日趋稳定后，人们才能开始着手处理心念中导致上瘾的原因了。「瘾头」通常都是根源于极深的自我憎恨与罪恶感，然后投射到我们自己或是他人的身体上的。
  
Q #30: I play computer games, which I really like to do. I believe I have to quit playing these games one day, because I want the Holy Spirit's alternative. There is another distraction I cherish, which is even an addiction. The addiction pulls me completely out of right-mindedness; it is a kick, a thrill, but with many side effects, disadvantages, the burden of anticipation etc. When I really look at it with Jesus, I do not want it anymore. And this is still not what I choose (up until now). There is an unwillingness to let go of these things. That they conflict with the Course…[Jesus] went shoe shopping with Helen for a while, but then also advised her to let it go.
  
Answer: Keep in mind that this is a process, and that it takes a long time for most of us. Patience and gentleness with ourselves are key parts of this process; otherwise, we fall into the ego's trap of making the error real.
  
An important piece of advice Jesus gives us at the beginning of the "Rules for Decision" is: "Do not fight yourself" (T-30.I.1:7).
Therefore, the most helpful approach would be to simply look at your reluctance to accept the Holy Spirit's alternative, and your feeling that Jesus' love is not enough for you, and then not condemn yourself for feeling that way. Just continue to be honest with yourself and with Jesus about how much you do not want to believe and accept what this Course is teaching you, and then don't judge yourself for it.
You will be practicing the Course in a very effective way if you can do this. That is what forgiveness is all about. You will be learning that the "sin" you have accused yourself of has had no effect, and that it was only a "tiny, mad idea" that has not changed love in any way.
Jesus is always and only interested in purpose. Thus, Helen was ready to change the purpose of her shopping sprees. She no longer needed to "protect" herself from Jesus' love; therefore, she did not need to go shopping anymore.
  
When our fear of accepting Jesus' love lessens, our involvement in our defenses against accepting that love will lessen as well. While the specific activities may still be a part of our lives, their purpose will have changed entirely. It is always content, not form.
  
The experience of peace or conflict has nothing to do with the activity or object itself. Peace and conflict are the result of our having chosen our ego or Jesus as our teacher.
  
Finally, speaking in general with regard to addictions: It often is necessary to deal with the behavior first -- to take whatever steps can be taken to curtail or stop the destructive behavior. This would reflect the mind's decision to be more loving towards oneself and others.
  
Then, when the behavior is more under control, the person can begin to deal with the cause of the addiction in the mind. Addictions most often are rooted in overwhelming self-hatred and guilt, which then gets projected onto one's own and/or another's body.
  转自：奇迹课程中文部 Ken Wapnick 2006/4/7