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第二十章 自尊自傲——它是如何阻挡我们获得丰盛的 CHAPTER TWENTY PRIDE--HOW IT STOPS US FROM HAVING ABUNDANCE “如果你能有那么一瞬间停止思考,就能发现自己的本相是什么。”——莱斯特•利文森 "If you could stop thinking for one moment, you would discover what you are." --Lester Levenson 这一章里,我们将要探索的是自尊自傲。我们将要从情绪表格里的“自尊自傲”讲到“无畏”。自尊自傲,如果你回顾一下情绪表格与行动量表,就会发现它是非常强大的。“我不能,我做不到”隐藏在“我不要”的外壳下。人们处于自尊自傲状态下时总会说“不,我不要……”然而,我们问的又不是你“要不要”,我们问的是你“能不能”。然后他们又会说“我不想啊”。是的,但是你能做吗?他们总是用“不,我不想做”来回答这个问题。 所以,自尊自傲就是隐瞒。我们把东西藏在自尊自傲里,那是一个充斥着强烈的排斥的地方。自尊自傲就是所有的排斥产生的地方,包括我们对丰盛的排斥。所以我们要去探索自尊自傲,去感受它。这样的话我们就能够把它释放,跨过它向无畏与接纳前进。 In this chapter, we're going to explore pride. We're going to move right up the Chart of Emotions from pride to courageousness. Pride, if you look at the Chart of Emotions and the Scale of Action, is a real strong "I can't” I It's hidden by "I won't” People in pride often say, "I won't do it” I However, we didn't ask you if you won't do it. We asked, "Can you do it?” I They say, "I don't want to.” Yeah, but CAN you do it? To that, they say, "I don't want to.” So pride is a HIDE. We hide things in pride and it's a very, very strong rejecting place. Pride is where all rejection happens, including our rejection of abundance. And so we're going to explore pride and allow ourselves to feel it. That way, we can let it go so we can move through it, progressing to courageousness and acceptance. 当我们处于自尊自傲中时,会觉得自己比其他任何人都好——别人都没有价值,他们都要瞩目于自己、看到自己有多伟大多优秀。但是当我们上升到无畏的阶段后,我们就会觉得说,“我很好,你也很好,大家一起向前进。”竞争会不复存在。而竞争的停止就意味着我们为了超过别人而产生的种种冲突与斗争也会消失。我们处于自尊自傲中的时候会非常排斥的,我们需要去对自尊自傲进行探索和释放,摆脱它。这样的话我们才能在情绪表格里前进,进入无畏、接纳和平和的状态。 所以我们来从行动量表里观察一下自尊自傲吧。莱斯特对自尊自傲的定义是:一种想要保持现状,不希望改变也不想前进的愿望。因此,这种愿望也会让我们在别人将要超过我们时千方百计地去阻挠。这是一种竞争——“我必须比别人更好。如果你想超过我,我就把你推下去。” In pride, we have a feeling we are better than anyone else--that nobody else counts and everybody has to look at us and see how wonderful we are. When we make the jump to courageousness, we feel like saying, "I'm terrific, you're terrific; we'll all move together.” There's no contest. The contest stops and so does the conflict and fight to better than the next person. We are very rejecting in pride and we need to explore that and release it, dumping it all so we can move up the Chart of Emotions toward courageousness, acceptance and peace. So let's read pride from the Scale of Action. Lester's definition of pride: "Pride is the wish to maintain the status quo, unwilling to change or move. Therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up.” It's a contest—“I have to be better than everybody. If you try to move past me, I'm going to push you down.” 无畏——那看上去像什么 COURAGEOUSNESS--WHAT THAT LOOKS LIKE 无畏就是一种行动起来,不害怕也不犹豫地去做事、去改正错误、去改变需要改变的任何事的意愿,也是一种勇于放下,继续往前走的意愿。 问问自己以下的引导释放的问题:“你愿意把它放下吗?你能够把它放下吗?那你想什么时候把它放下呢?”这些问题关乎勇气,但是和自尊自傲无关。你愿意把它放下吗?你能够把它放下吗?你想什么时候把它放下呢?这些问题会把你向无畏的状态推进,把你的力量还给你。你会意识到一切的阻挠不过是你的感觉,这就意味着你可以把它们放下,只要你想、只要你选择这么做。持续做这练习会让你离接纳与平和更近一步。因此,你会向着自己波澜不惊的本相前进。 Courageousness is the willingness to move out without fear or hesitation-to do, to correct, to change--whatever is needed. It's the willingness to let go and move on. Ask the releasing questions of: "Would you let it go? Could you let it go? When? ” These are courageous questions. They're not prideful questions, they're courageous ones. Would you let it go? Could you let it go? When? The questions move you up to courageousness, giving you back your power. You recognize it's your feelings. Since they're your feelings, you can let them go if you choose to Doing this continuously moves you closer to acceptance and peace. Therefore, you move toward the imperturbable person you are. 你在情绪表格上前进地越多,就会变得越来越平静、越来越强大、越来越能干、越来越积极。随着我们将那些限制性的感受都释放掉,我们会在表格上前进的。我们会一直释放相关的能量、允许它们上浮离开。你可以花几分钟去回顾一下情绪表格。看看自己当初是从哪个阶段开始的,现在又到了哪个阶段。 注意到你真的进步了。多数人会在不同的阶段之间窜来窜去,然而我们都会有一个基准、一个我们一般情况下的状态。你会注意到你释放了越多限制性情绪,就在表格上上升地越快。 The more you move up on the chart (if you haven't noticed), the quieter you get, the more powerful you get, the more capable you are, the more positive you are. As we've been letting go of these limiting feelings, we are moving up the chart. We've been letting go of this energy and allowing it to pass through. You might take a few minutes and turn to the Chart of Emotions. Check to see where on the chart you were when you started to do the work in this book. Where are you right now on the Chart of Emotions? Notice that you moved up. Most of us bounce around from different places on the Chart of Emotions, but we all have a home base we can generally hang out in. You will notice that the more you have been releasing these limitations called feelings, the more you've moved up the chart. 现在我们要更加深入地观察一下自尊自傲。第八章对自尊自傲有过描述,不过我们还是来看一下吧。 当处于自尊自傲状态时,我们会感觉:超出一切、冷淡、自负、比……好、洋洋自得、自以为是、居高临下、倨傲、无动于衷、不屑、傲慢、自命不凡、冷酷、冷漠、挑剔、伪善、自以为公正、强硬、自鸣得意、特殊、出众、不妥协、冷酷无情、爱慕虚荣。 Now we're going to take a look at pride in a more in-depth way. In Chapter Eight, there's a description of pride. Let's look at pride again. The way you feel in pride is: above it all, aloof, arrogant, better than, complacent, conceited, condescending, contemptuous, cool, disdain, haughty, holier-than-thou, icy, irreverent, judgmental, pious, righteous, rigid, smug, special, superior, uncompromising, unfeeling, vain. 当你处于自尊自傲状态时会这样想: 放肆!你怎么敢……! 我早就知道了。 我什么都知道。 是是是,我知道。 我才不和那种人合作呢。 我表面上表示同意,但我背地里会按自己的方式做的。 我比他们别人都强。 我比你强。 我比你们所有人的位置都好。 我不喜欢他们。 我是唯一一个能够做好这件事的人。 我是唯一一个能够完成这件事的人。 我就是救世主。 我是大英雄。 我忙着做更重要的事呢,没工夫搭理你。 都是你的错。 我可能做也可能不做……,没准儿吧。 我的方法是唯一的方法。 他们知道什么呀! 你这是犯什么毛病! 他们以为自己是谁呀! 你以为自己是谁呀! 为什么每个人都这么没用呢? 你不属于我们(你不合适?)。 你需要我来搞定这件事。 And the way you think when you're in pride includes: How dare you? I knew that. I know everything. I know. I won't associate with THOSE kind of people. I'll look like I'm agreeing and I'll do it my way. I'm better than all of them. I'm better than you. I'm in a better place than all of you. I'm not like them. I'm the only one who can do it right. I'm the only one who can get it done. I'm the savior. I'm the hero. I'm too busy with important matters to have time for you. It's your fault. Maybe I'll do it and maybe I won't. My way is the only way. What do they know? What's wrong with you? Who do they think they are? Who do you think you are? Why is everyone so incompetent? You don't belong. You need me to get it done. 当你处于自尊自傲的状态时,你会表现得:冷淡、固执己见、责怪别人、喜欢自夸、无聊、自我封闭、洋洋自得、自高自大、游离在外、不尊敬别人、疏离、傲慢专断、自我本位、故作谦卑、沾沾自喜、虚伪、冷漠、万事通、心胸狭隘、认为自己永远没错、武断、屈尊俯就、浮夸、贬低别人、疏远、蓄意破坏、道貌岸然、自私自利、自我为中心、妄自尊大、势利眼、被宠坏、禁欲主义、固执、高傲、说别人坏话、不愿宽恕、排外不接纳、不可理喻、刚直不屈、孤僻。 回想一个你生活中的自尊自傲比较强烈的人,看你对他为人处事的方式是否有排斥感、抗拒感、或是紧抓不放的感觉。就让那能量上浮离开吧。再回想一个你自己处于自尊自傲状态的时刻——你真的、真的认为自己比谁都强的时刻——而你因此而陶醉。看你是否同时也产生了任何抗拒感、排斥感、或是紧抓感。就让那能量上浮离开吧。 The way you act when being prideful is: aloof, arrogant, bigoted, blaming others, boastful, bored, closed, complacent, conceited, detached, disrespectful, distant, dogmatic, egotistical, false humility, gloating, hypocritical, indifferent, know-it-all, narrow-minded, never wrong, opinionated, patronizing, pompous, putting others down, remote, sabotaged, sanctimonious, self-absorbed, self-centered, self-important, snobbish, spoiled, stoic, stubborn, stuck up, talking against others, unforgiving, impenetrable, unreadable, unyielding, withdrawn. Take a look at somebody you know in your life that's in pride a lot and see if you're rejecting, resisting or clutching in reaction to how they act. And just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. And think about a time when you acted in pride--when you really, really thought you were the cat's meow--and you got smashed for it. See if there's any resistance, any rejection, any clutching. Just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. 释放掉自尊自傲让我们走向CAP LETTING GO OF PRIDE ALLOWS US TO MOVE UP TO CAP 人必须要学会与任何能量和平共处,学会正确处理它们。因此,我们得去体验它们,然后把它们从路上推走,好让丰盛之流不息。现在,当我们不爽某个处于自尊自傲状态的人时,你知道发生什么事了吗?我们其实也陷入了自尊自傲,只是我们还没有意识到而已。我们在评判和指责别人,我们认为他们是错的并且排斥他们。我们最后觉得自己被拒绝了。但是如果你自己不曾拒绝过别人的话,是不可能感受到被拒绝的。回想一下是不是这样。如果你没有紧抓不放或是抗拒排斥的话,也不可能感受到被拒绝。下次如果你又感到被拒绝了,就垂下头,寻找你胸腹之间的无用能量,让它上浮离开吧。 One must be OK with any energy. Therefore, we need to move through the energy and push through it, allowing the flow of abundance to continue. Now, when we don't like somebody in pride, guess what? We're in pride and we don't really know it. We're judging them. We're making them wrong and we're actually rejecting them. We end up feeling rejected, BUT IT'S NOT POSSIBLE TO FEEL REJECTED IF YOU AREN'T THE REJECTOR. Just take a check and see. It's not possible to feel rejected if you aren't clutching or resisting. Next time you feel rejected, put your head down, notice if there's an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest. Allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. 讲点道理,不要再当自己是受害者了 MOVING FROM A VICTIM PLACE TO A CAUSAL PLACE 回想最近的一次你感到被拒绝被排斥的经历。垂下头,看你胸腹之间是否盘旋着一股无用能量,就让它浮上表面、自行离开吧。回想最近的一次你拒绝和排斥某人的经历,你评判某人、打击某人。那是自尊自傲的表现吗?请垂下头去感受那里是否又有一股无用能量。你能让它上浮离开吗?再回想某个沉浸在自尊自傲里的人,他们的一举一动、所作所为,这在你感觉中心引起了任何抗拒感吗?检查一下你的感觉中心,你是不是又在排斥了?是不是又在抗拒了?你能让那股能量上浮离开吗? 回想最近的一次你被戏弄或戏弄别人的经历,那是自尊自傲的表现吗?这看上去可能只是玩笑,但其背后依然有着负面能量。检查一下,就让那能量上浮离开吧,把对它的抗拒感也一同释放。它让你想要吸引别人的注意、想要在别人面前表现自己……你看不到吗?感觉不到吗?感受那种自尊自傲吧!让它浮上表面、穿过你离开。 Think about the last time you felt rejected. Put your head down and see if you have an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest area. Just allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. Think about the last time you rejected someone. You judged them, you put them down. Could that be pride? Could you put your head down and notice there's an unwanted energy there? Could you allow it to come up and pass through? And think about somebody who's really in pride. See if that brings up any resistance in your feeling center—somebody acting like that, walking around like that. See if you're rejecting, resisting them inside your feeling center. Could you allow your energy to come up and just allow it to pass through? Think about the last time somebody was teasing you or you were teasing them. Could that be pride? It looks playful, but still there's a lot of negative energy there. Take a check. Just allow that energy to come up. Let go of resisting it. It's wanting to get the other person, wanting to show the other person. Can't you see it? Can't you feel it? Feel that pride. Allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. 无畏 COURAGEOUSNESS 让我们再观察一下无畏吧。它不是一个退缩的阶段,而是一个付出的阶段。无畏是一种毫不畏惧也毫不犹豫地前进的意愿,行动起来、去改正错误、有必要的话去改变任何事的意愿,以及勇于放下和继续前进的意愿。与无畏相关的感受有:警觉、有活力、确定、明智、有目标、愉快、清醒、自信、有合作精神、快乐、热切、精力充沛、振奋、全神贯注、理由充分、充满热情、开心、热忱、有希望、独立、所向披靡、有爱、神志清醒、不抵抗、开放、乐观、热情满满、有目的、善于接纳、有韧性、安全、妥当、稳定、乐意、积极、热心。 当你处于无畏状态时你的想法:我行、我能做到、我听得进去、我能恰当地作答、我会做任何需要的事而且那会奏效、我知道我们可以的、我会做任何事来保证成功、我愿意、我愿意冒这个风险、这会是简单而且毫不费力的、这件事有多困难解决起来就有多容易、这是有可能的、我们大家一起努力吧、我们能做到的、我们会找到办法的、是的可以的! Let's take a look at courageousness. It's not a holding back place, it's a giving place. Courageousness is the willingness to move out without fear or hesitation. To do. To correct. To change whatever is needed. The willingness to let go and move on. And the feelings associated with courageousness are: alert, alive, assured, aware, centered, cheerful, clear, confident, cooperative, delighted, eager, energetic, exhilarated, focused, grounded, full of gusto, happy, heartiness, hopeful, independent, invincible, loving, lucid, nonresistant, open, optimistic, passionate, purposeful, receptive, resilient, safe, secure, stable, willing, zealous and zestful. And the way you think when you're in courageousness: I can, I can get it done. I can listen. I can respond appropriately. I do what is needed and it works. I know we can. I'll do what it takes to make it work. I'm willing. I'm willing to take risks. It can be easy and effortless. It is as easy as it is hard. It's possible. Let's work together. We can do it. We'll find a way. Yes! 当你处于自尊自傲的状态时、你事实上会感觉“我是最伟大的,谁敢挡我路我就灭了谁,大家都关注着我”。当你处于无畏的状态时,你会感到“我们都很好,我好你也好,我们都会好起来的,我们互相帮助。” 这两个状态之间是个很大的转变——巨大的不同。你会因此变得:能干、直率、适应良好、勇于冒险、无畏、勇敢、坦白、愿意协作、坚定、富于同情心、有能力、乐于合作、创造力十足、大胆、果断、勇于奉献、有活力、令人愉快、勇于探索、灵活、专注、豪放、英勇、慷慨、乐于付出、善良、怡然自得、真诚、幽默、主动、探询审视、富有洞察力、十分正直、别出心裁、自强不息、与搭档合作默契、敏锐、不屈不挠、坚持不懈、爱开玩笑、快乐、足智多谋、不惧风险、坚强、自立、犀利、聚焦解决方案、自然真挚、强壮、乐于助人、不知疲倦、谦逊低调、勇毅、顽强。 In pride, you're actually feeling: I'm the greatest and don't you dare do anything to stop me. Everybody look at me. In courageousness: We're terrific. I'm terrific, you're terrific, we'll all be terrific and we'll help each other. That's a big shift--a big difference. And the way you act is: able, aboveboard, adaptive, adventurous, bold, brave, candid, collaborative, committed, compassionate, competent, cooperative, creative, daring, decisive, dedicated, dynamic, enjoyably, exploratory, flexible, focused, forthright, gallant, generous, giving, full of goodness, gratified, honestly, humorous, initiative, inquiringly, insightful, full of integrity, inventive, motivated, partnering, perceptive, persevering, persistent, playful, pleasurably, resourceful, risk-taking, robust, self-sufficient, sharp, solution-focused, spontaneous, strong, supportive, tireless, unpretentious, valiant and vigorous. 所以,回想一下你处于无畏状态的时刻吧,感受一下。这和自尊自傲真的是有很大的不同,自尊自傲的感觉是“我很棒,不要试图超越我”,而无畏的感觉是“我很好,你也很好……我们互帮互助。”这是一种态度上和能量上的转变,让我们离接纳和平和越来越近。 So take a look at the times when you've been in courageousness. See what it looks like. It's a big shift from pride, which is "I'm terrific and don't try to be better than me," to courageousness, which is "I'm terrific, you're terrific ... we'll help each other." It's an attitude swing, it's an energy shift, and it's a moving closer and closer to acceptance and peace. 释放自尊自傲,往前进 LETTING GO OF PRIDE AND MOVING UP 现在我们要试一下“释放自尊自傲”,以下的练习是帮助你释放自尊自傲、加快奔向存在。 自尊自傲是一种使你受困的情绪,因为我们想要保持和守护自己的现状。自尊自傲是一种偶然间做成了某事但不确定下次会不会同样好运的感觉。因此,我们死守着自己过往的成就、想让它得到承认,而不是继续努力去攀登下一个高峰。有时候,自尊自傲也是一种微妙的优越感。 自尊自傲对我们大多数人来说都是盲点。我们通常会受困于自尊自傲而不自知。这个练习会向你揭示出你的自尊自傲,帮助你释放它。你要做的就是遵循指导,看着事情发生。 Now let's take a look at "Releaing the Pride". The following exercise is designed to allow you to let go of your pride and move up into beingness faster. Pride is an emotion that gets us stuck because often we want to hold on to it and protect it. Pride is sometimes a sense of having done it and not being sure if we can do it again. Therefore, we hold on to what we've done and try to get acknowledgment for it instead of just moving on to our next accomplishment. It's also sometimes a subtle sense of being better than others. Pride is a blind spot for most of us. We often get stuck in pride and don't know it. Doing this exercise will uncover your pride for yourself and let it go. What I want you to do is just follow along and see what happens. 释放自尊自傲 RELEASING PRIDE 1、 问问你自己,“什么令我骄傲?”列一张单子,然后释放掉与每一条相关的欲望。每次解决一条。 2、 问问你自己,“我能把自己对骄傲的执着放下吗?” 3、 有些东西是人们经常为之骄傲但不自知的,如: 固执; 能够通过消极的表现把别人逼疯; 是女人,或者是男人; 明智; 骄傲于人生中小小的成就; 自作聪明,或自以为是个大人; …… 你明白我的意思了吧! 1. Ask yourself "What am I proud of?" Make a list and release the wants associated with each item. Do one at a time. 2. Ask yourself, "Could I let go of holding on to the pride?" 3. Things that people are often proud about, that we are not consciously aware of: *being stubborn *being able to drive others crazy by acting negatively *being a woman or being a man *being smart *being proud of certain things you do in life *being a smart ass or a brat. .. You get the idea! 所以,想一些你为之骄傲的事,不管是什么——自作聪明、固执己见、智力超群、能够把别人搞疯——任何你为之骄傲的东西。写下来,我要你深深地往下挖,写下来并且注意那些你隐隐地为之骄傲的、不想让自己甚至是别人知道这种骄傲的东西。所以,回想一些你为之骄傲的东西,你能把它视为想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全妥当的欲望吗?你能把这些欲望放下吗?再回想一些你为之骄傲的东西,不管那会激起你怎样的欲望或感受,你能把它放下吗? 现在,再回想一些你为之骄傲的东西。记住,自尊自傲其实是一种执念。所以,你能否把它放下呢?甚至把你对你儿女曾经的成功的那种骄傲也一起放下?为儿女骄傲倒是没什么大不了的,不过有时我们对那骄傲太过执着,导致我们无法前进。就把它放下吧,然后重新出发。只要把你的骄傲放下,看你是否感觉好一点了。不要继续在困境里自甘堕落了。好,再回想一些你为之骄傲的东西,你能把它们放下吗?能再多放下一些吗?再多一些呢?我不是说骄傲是坏事,我只是说,你可以感受骄傲,但也要懂得继续前行,向着无畏、接纳与平和前进。不要再沉浸在自尊自傲里了。释放更多,越多越好。 So, think about something you're proud about. Whatever it is--being a smart ass, being stubborn, being smarter than most people, being able to drive people crazy--whatever it is you're proud of. Write it down. I want you to dig as deep as you can. Write down and notice the things that you are proud about that you hide from yourself and don't want even yourself--and definitely others --to know. So think of one thing that you're proud of. Could you see that as either wanting approval, wanting control or wanting safety and security? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety and security? And think of something else you're proud of. Whichever want it stirs up, could you just let it go? Now think of something else you're proud of. Remember, pride is a holding- on feeling. So, could you even let go of pride of your son or daughter for a past accomplishment? It's OK to be proud of your son or daughter, but sometimes we hold on to the pride so we can't move forward. Let go and move up. Just let go of the pride and see if it gets any better. Don't just stay stuck. So see what else you're proud of. Could you let that go? And more. And even more. And think of something else you're proud of. Dig as deep as you can. And could you let that go? Could you let go of being proud of that? And more. And more. And I'm not saying it's bad to proud, I'm just saying it's OK to feel it, but then move on. Move up to courageousness, acceptance and peace. Don't just stay stuck in pride. And more. And more. 现在,再回想一些你隐隐为之骄傲、但是不想让别人知道的东西。你能让那骄傲浮上表面,自行离开吗?释放更多,越多越好。再回想一些你为之骄傲的东西,你能把这种情结放下吗?它不过是一种能量。垂下头,让那能量上浮离开吧,这样你就能向无畏与平和迈进了。不要再执着于此了,就放手吧。还有什么被勾起了呢?是想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望吗?不管是哪个“想要”,你能允许它上浮离开吗? 回想一些你为之骄傲的东西。垂下头,去注意那里的紧抓感、那种无用能量,然后允许它上浮离开。再回想一些你为之骄傲的东西,允许那能量浮上表面、穿过你离开。持续释放,把你所有的骄傲释放掉,然后继续。 Now think of something else you're proud of but you don't want anybody else to know. Could you allow that pride to come up? And just allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. And even more. And think of something else you're proud of. Could you let go of being proud of that? It's just an energy. Put your head down, allow the energy to come up and allow it to pass through so you can move up to courageousness and peace. Don't just hold on, let it go. And see what else you've brought up. Could that be wanting approval, control or safety? Whichever want it is, could you just allow it to pass through? Think of something else you're proud of. Put your head down and notice there's a clutching, an energy there. And just allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. And think of something else you're proud of and allow that energy to come up and pass through. Keep releasing all of your price and then continue. 批判 JUDGMENTS 在这一章节,我们要探索一下批判。我们再多问几个问题吧。你在批判着谁?你在批判着什么?垂下头,感觉那里的紧抓不放的感觉和其背后的无用能量。你能把批判的冲动放下吗?释放更多,越多越好。回想一个你批判指责有成见的人,可以是自己,也可以是别人。注意,那并不好受。垂下头,让那能量上浮离开吧。不要为那些被你批判指责过的人做释放,而是为自己去做。允许那能量浮上表面自行离开。释放更多,越多越好。再回想一个你批判指责有成见的人事物,然后允许那能量浮上表面,然后把那种批判放下,允许它穿过你离开。再回想一个你批判指责有成见的人事物,你能允许你胸腹之间的那股能量上浮离开吗?再多释放一些呢?再多一些呢? 你批判指责自己是在为了批判指责自己,还是为了批判指责别人?你能把对自己的批判和指责放下吗?释放更多,越多越好。你是在为了优越感而批判别人吗?你会因自高自傲而骄傲吗?或者说,你会因为能够高高在上批判别人而骄傲吗?不管这些想法激起了你怎样的能量,你能只是让它上浮离开吗?释放更多,越多越好。再回想一些你批判指责怀有成见的人事物,你能把它放下吗?放吧,放吧,越多越好。保持释放,直到你对此完全清楚淡定再往下继续。现在回想一些令你内疚的事。这是另一种形态的批判。你能让其背后的能量浮上表面吗?把对此的抗拒抵触或是紧抓不放都释放掉,只是允许那能量自行离开。释放更多,越多越好。这不过是个习惯。 In this section, we're going to explore judgment. So right now let's ask some more questions. Who or what are you judging? Put your head down, notice there's a clutching, an energy there. And could you let go of judging? And more. And more. Think of somebody you're judging. It could be yourself. It could be somebody else. Notice it's uncomfortable. Put your head down and just allow that energy to come up. Don't release for them, release for you, and allow that energy to leave. And more. And even more. Think of something else you're judging. And just allow that energy to come up and let go of judging it, just allow it to pass through. And think of something or somebody you have a judgment about. Could you allow that energy to come up in your stomach or your chest and just allow it to pass through. And more. And more. Are you judging yourself for judging yourself or for judging other people? Could you let go of judging yourself? And more. And more. And more. Are you judging somebody for being in pride? Are you proud of being proud? Or proud of being judgmental? Whichever energy it stirs up, could you just allow it to pass through? And more. And more. And even more. And think of somebody else or something else you're judging. And could you let it go? And more. And more. And more. Keep releasing in the judging until you are clear before moving on. Now think of something you're guilty about. It's another form of judgment. Could you allow that energy to come up, let go of resisting it, let go of clutching and just allow it to pass through? And more. And more. And more. It's just a habit. 负疚感 GUILT 回想一个让你有负疚感的人事物。允许那能量浮上表面。垂下头,让它上浮离开。释放更多,越多越好。再回想你曾经做过的觉得愧疚的事。垂下头。对这些事感到愧疚实在是很愚蠢的,你这样是在伤害自己、批判指责自己,不管你有没有意识到这一点。而且这同样是自尊自傲的表现。你能允许那能量上浮离开吗?释放更多,越多越好。回想一个曾经批判过你或是别人的人,你会因此反过头来指责他吗?垂下头,注意是否有一股无用能量被激发了,就让它离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。 再回想另一个让你有负疚感的人事物,一件让你很有罪恶感的事。就让那能量上浮离开吧。持续释放,直到那种负疚感全部消失,然后继续。 Think of something you're guilty about. just allow that energy to come up. Put your head down, allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. And think of something you did in the past that you feel guilty about. Put your head down. It's silly to feel guilty about it. You're just hurting yourself and you're just judging yourself (if you've ever noticed). And that is also pride. Can you allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through? And more. And even more. Think of someone who judges you or judges other people. Are you judging them back for doing that? Put your head down and notice there's an energy there and just allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. And think of something else you're guilty about, something you're guilty for doing. just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. Keep releasing until the guilt is gone, then move on. 分离 SEPARATION 好,我们现在来看看分离。你想要与什么人或事分离呢?不管答案是什么,你能否垂下头,然后让那股能量浮上表面,穿过你离开?注意你会觉得放不开、会觉得抗拒,那么就让这些感觉穿过你离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。你还想与谁或者是什么事分离呢?或者是回想一下你想要与之分离的感受。垂下头,感受那种抗拒感,然后让它穿过你离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。再回想一个你想要与之分离的人事物,比如某个粗暴的人?某个讨厌的家伙?垂下头,注意到你这是在评判了,而这感受并不好。允许那股能量上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。你想要与你的感觉分离吗?继续对你想要与之分离的东西做释放,直到你对此完全淡定清楚。然后继续。 All right, let's take a look at separation. Who or what do you want to be separate from? Whatever answer you've got, could you put your head down and allow the energy to come up and allow it to pass through? Notice there's a clutching going on, a resistance, and just allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. Who or what do you want to be separate from? Think of some feeling you want to be separate from. Put your head down. Notice there's a resistance there and just allow it to pass through. And more. And more. Think of something else you want to be separate from. And outrageous person, an annoying person. Put your head down and notice that there's judging going on. And it's uncomfortable. Allow that energy to come up and allow it to just pass through. And more. And even more. Do you want to be separate from your feelings? Keep releasing on things you want to be separate from until you're clear on it before moving on. 排斥 REJECTING 现在,回想一个你排斥的人。你能把对他们的这种排斥释放掉吗?释放更多,越多越好。也许你排斥的是你自己——自己的某个习惯或是做的某件令你不开心的事。垂下头,让那股能量上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。再回想一个你排斥的人。允许那股能量浮上表面、穿过你离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。再回想一个排斥你的人,你能允许那股能量上浮离开吗?释放更多,越多越好。 现在,再回想一个你很抗拒的人或物,或许这会让你感到万念俱灰、苦痛、恐惧、贪求、愤怒、自尊自傲,也有可能会让你觉得无畏、接纳与平和。但你要做的只是允许那股能量浮上表面。垂下头,就让它穿过你离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。你之所以感到被压迫、感到不舒服,就是因为你在抗拒。现在把那抗拒放下吧,放吧,放吧,越多越好。 再回想一个你抗拒的人事物。你会对丰盛或是更顺利的生活也心生抗拒吗?你会对巨额财富或是和所爱的人在一起心生抗拒吗?你能否把对这些事的抗拒都释放掉吗?释放更多,越多越好。你可以在任何时间停下手头的事来对这些东西做释放,我强烈建议你这么做。 Now think of somebody you're rejecting. Could you let go of rejecting them? And more. And more. And maybe you're rejecting yourself--a habit or something you do that you don't like. Put your head down and allow that energy to come up and just allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. Now think of somebody you're rejecting. just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. And think of somebody that is rejecting you. Could you allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through? And more. And more. Now think of somebody you're resisting or something that you're resisting. Maybe it's a feeling like apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, pride or even CAP. Just allow that energy to come up. Put your head down, just allow it to pass through. And more. And more. And more. It's only because you're resisting that you feel a push and feel uncomfortable. Let go of resisting. And more. And more. And think of somebody or something you're resisting. Could you be resisting abundance or having an easy life? Could you be resisting having lots of money or having a loving person in your life? Could you let go of resisting those things? And more. And even more. And even more. And again, anytime you wish, you can stop and do more work on each of these subjects. I highly recommend it. 嫉妒 JEALOUSY 谁,或什么,会让你感到妒火中烧呢?回想一个让你嫉妒的人事物吧。然后允许那能量浮上表面。注意,你又在紧抓着不放了。如果你对释放又产生了抗拒感,就让其背后的能量一同上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。回想一个让你嫉妒的人,感觉一下自己的紧抓感和抗拒感,然后让那能量穿过你离开吧。再回想一个你的竞争对手,他们是否也在嫉妒你呢?你也在排斥他们吗?你能把这种排斥放下吗?释放更多,越多越好。你能把自己想要与之分离的冲动放下吗?再多释放一些呢?再多一些呢? So who or what brings up feelings of jealousy for you? Think of somebody you're jealous of or something that you're jealous about. Just allow that energy to come up. Notice if you're clutching, if there's a resistance. Just allow that energy to pass through. And more. And more. Think of somebody you're jealous of. See if there's a clutching, a resistance and just allow that energy to pass through. And think of somebody you're in contest with. See if they're jealous of you and whether you're rejecting them or not. Could you let go of rejecting them? And more. And more. And could you let go of trying to separate yourself from them? And more--and even more. 比别人强 BEING BETTER THAN OTHERS 回想一个你觉得不如你的人——你觉得你比他要强的人。你能允许他与你平等吗?把紧抓不放的感觉放下好吗?只是将它释放?回想一个你觉得自己比他要强的人。你能允许他与你平等吗?现在你能放下这件事吗?再回想一个你觉得自己比他强的人——你觉得他不如你。你能允许这个人与你平等吗?把紧抓不放的感觉放下然后将它释放好吗?再回想一个你觉得不如你的人,你能允许他与你平等吗?然后就放下吧。 现在,你也许想停在这里回想几个生命中出现过的人,把与之相关的东西释放掉。 And think of somebody you think you are better than--one person whom you think you're better than. Could you allow that person to be equal to you? Let go of clutching and just release it. Think of somebody you think you are better than. Could you allow that person to be equal to you? And now just let it go. And think of somebody else you think you're better than--one person you think you are better than. Could you allow that person to be equal to you? Let go of clutching and release it. Think of somebody else you think you're better than. Could you allow that person to be equal to you? And just let it go. Now you may want to take the time at this point and continue on with a number of people in your life and let go of this stuff. 不安全感 INSECURITY 现在,你觉得谁比你强呢?回想一个你觉得比你强、比你好的人。你能允许自己与他们平等吗?你能允许自己与他们平等吗?注意,你又在紧抓着不放了吧?就把这感觉放下吧。你觉得谁比你强呢?回想一个让你自愧不如的人,你能允许自己与之平等吗?留心你的紧抓感,把它释放掉。你也许想要停在这里,回想几个人再继续。 再来一遍,回想一个让你自愧不如的人。他也许更加有建树?更有钱?更美貌?活得更快乐?注意,你又在紧抓不放了,又在评判自己或别人了,就让那能量上浮离开吧。 Now, who do you think is better than you? Think of one person that you think is better than you. Can you allow yourself to be equal to them? Could you allow yourself to be equal to them? Notice if there's any clutching. Just let it go. Now who do you think is better than you? Think of one person that you think is better than you. Could you allow yourself to be equal to them? Notice if there's any clutching, release on it, and then let it go! You may want to stop here and continue on with some other people before moving forward. Now one more: Think of somebody you think is better than you. This person might be more accomplished, have more money, might be better looking or more comfortable in life. Notice you're clutching, judging either yourself or them, and just allow that energy to leave and pass through. 人格 PERSONALITY 现在我们来观察一下自己的人格面具,我们的品性。如果你正处于自尊自傲的状态,可要小心了。想一个你的人格缺陷或者是性格特点,你能否把它归于想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的三大欲望之下呢?你能否把这些欲望释放掉呢?例如,你总是很温柔怯懦,你能把它视为是想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗?你能把这些“想要”都放下吗?你可以在某些时候表现得顽强,甚至难搞的。你明白了吧。 挑一个你的性格特点,你能否把它归于想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望之下呢?再挑一个你的性格特点,你能把它看作想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗?你能把这些欲望放下吗?挑一个你的性格特点,看它时候属于想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望。不管是哪个,你能放下吗?此时,你可能想继续对某些自己的性格特点做释放,打破你的人格面具,这样就能从自尊自傲中解脱出来,继续前进,让丰盛之流继续流动。 为了达到丰盛,这些练习是非常重要的。所以请再多做一些这些练习,直到释放和清理干净,再往下进行。 And now let's take a look at our persona, our personality. A better name for it may be "poison"-ality if you are in pride. Take one personality flaw that you have or personality trait that you have and see if it's a wanting of approval, control or safety. And could you let go of either wanting control, wanting approval or wanting safety and security? It might be that you're gentle at times. Could you see that as either wanting approval, control or safety? And could you let that go? It could be that you're tough at times--even mean. You get the idea. Pick one personality trait that you have and see if it's a wanting of approval, control or safety. And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? Pick another personality trait that you have and see if it's a wanting of approval, control or safety. And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? Pick one personality trait that you have and see if it's a wanting of approval, control or safety. And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? At this point, you might want to continue letting go of your personality traits, your persona--Ietting it go so you're not stuck in pride and you can move on and allow the flow of abundance to continue. Doing this work is very important in order to move into abundance. So go back and do more until it is all cleared up before moving on. 对自尊自傲的贪爱与憎恶 ATTACHMENT AND AVERSION TO PRIDE 在这一部分,我们要继续观察自尊自傲,以及我们对自尊自傲的抗拒。我们先来看看抗拒。 我们来对自尊自傲做一下贪爱憎恶练习吧。你喜欢自尊自傲的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全妥当欲望吗?不管是哪种欲望被激发了,你能放下吗?你处于自尊自傲的状态下有什么坏处?这想法让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全吗?不管是哪个“想要”,你能把它放下吗?你能把想要分离的冲动放下吗?你处于自尊自傲的状态下有什么好处呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全的欲望吗?会引起你想要分离的冲动吗?不管什么被激发了,你能放下吗?你处于自尊自傲状态下还会有什么坏处呢?这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制、想要安全或是想要分离吗?不管你想要什么,你能把它放下吗?你处于自尊自傲状态下还有什么好处呢?这会激起你的三大欲望或是想要分离的冲动吗?不管是那种欲望或冲动被激发了,你能只是把它放下吗?你处于自尊自傲状态下还会有什么坏处吗?这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全、想要分离吗?不管是哪个“想要”,你能把它放下吗?你愿意把它放下吗? In this part, we're going to continue looking at pride and our resistance to it. We're going to look at resistance. And let's do an attachments and aversions session with pride. So what do you like about pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety and security? And whichever want it brings up, could you let it go? And what disadvantage is it for you to be in pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And whichever want it stirs up, could you let it go? Could you even let go of wanting to be separate? And what's another advantage of you being in pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety or wanting to be separate? And whichever want it brings up, could you just let it go? And what's another disadvantage of you being in pride or having pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever want it is, could you just let it go? And what's another advantage to being in pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or sep aration? And whichever want it is, could you just let it go? And what's a disadvantage of being in pride or having pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever want it is, could you let it go? Could you just let it go? 现在我们来针对自尊自傲问一下“榨柠檬”的问题。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再感到骄傲了。如果这想法在你胸腹之间激起了一股无用能量——排斥感、紧抓感、或抵触感——你能只是把它放下吗?释放更多,越多越好。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能感到骄傲了,你失去这种能力了。注意这在你胸腹之间激起了一股无用能量,一种抗拒感或是紧抓感——允许它上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。你能把自己对自尊自傲的所有贪爱都放下吗?在说“是”的时候心生抗拒吗?就让那能量上浮离开吧。记住,我们这是在向着波澜不惊、无畏、接纳与平和前进。我们每释放一次,就离它们更近一步。自尊自傲是一个很大的困境,一个充满了排斥的地方。你能把自己对自尊自傲的全部贪爱都放下吗?你能只是允许那股能量上浮离开吗?说“是”的时候感到抗拒吗?就把这抗拒感也一同放下吧。放吧,放吧,越多越好。 Now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question with regard to pride. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to have pride again. If that brings up an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest--a rejection, a clutching or resistance-- could you just let it go? And more. And even more. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to have pride again. You lost the ability. Notice if it brings up an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest area, a resistance, a clutching—allow it come up and allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. And could you let go of your entire attachment to pride? Any resistance to saying "yes," just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. Remember that we are moving up towards imperturbability, courageousness, acceptance and peace. And each time we let go, we're moving up. And pride is a big stuck place, a resistant place. And could you let go of your entire attachment to pride? Could you just allow that energy to pass through? Any resistance to saying "yes?" Just let it go. And more. And even more. 对自尊自傲的憎恶 AVERSION TO PRIDE 现在我们来对自尊自傲做憎恶练习吧。你喜欢自尊自傲的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望吗?会激起你想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些“想要”都放下吗?你讨厌自尊自傲的哪一点呢?这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制、想要安全和想要分离么?不管你想要什么,你能允许这种冲动上浮离开吗?你喜欢自尊自傲的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全的欲望和想要分离的冲动吗?不管是哪种“想要”被激发了,你能只是把它放下吗?就只是让它穿过你离开。它不好也不好,只是个路过的现象。你讨厌自尊自傲的哪一点呢?那会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制、想要安全和想要分离吗?不管是什么,你能放下吗? 现在我们针对自尊自傲问一下自己“榨柠檬”的问题吧。想象你永远都要处于自尊自傲的状态,无论如何都停不下来。看这想法是否激起了你紧抓不放和抗拒抵触的感觉,然后就让那能量上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。想象你永远都要处于自尊自傲的状态,带着骄傲穿行于世间,你想停都停不下来,人们会因此讨厌你的。看这想法时候激起了一股无用能量,然后允许这能量上浮离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。想象你要一直处于自尊自傲的状态,要永远这样下去了。而且你同时也会被也处于自尊自傲状态的人所包围,你无法停止这一切。注意,这想法激起了一股无用能量,一种紧抓感,一种抗拒感。就让它浮上表面,穿过你离开吧。释放更多,越多越好。你能把自己对自尊自傲的所有憎恶都放下吗?如果你说“是”的时候心生抗拒,就把那抗拒感一同放掉吧,把紧抓着不放的感觉也一同放掉吧。只要允许那能量自行离开。放吧,放吧,越多越好。记住,它不好也不好,只不过是路过的现象。放吧,放吧,越多越好。 And now let's do the aversion to pride. What do you like about pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of these wants? And what do you dislike about pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever want it is, could you just allow it to pass through? And what do you like about pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever want it stirs up, could you just let it go? Just allow it to pass through. It's not good, it's not bad, it's just phenomenon passing through. And what don't you like about pride? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever one it stirs up, could you just let it go? And now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question with regard to pride. Imagine always being in pride all the time. Wherever you go, you can't stop. See if it brings up a clutching, a resistance, and just allow the energy to come up and allow it to pass through. And more. And even more. Imagine always being in pride. You're going to walk around in pride all the time. You can't top, and people are going to pop you for it. See if that brings up an unwanted energy and just allow it to come up and pass through. And more. And more. Imagine always being in pride. All the time. And you're going to be surrounded by other people in pride and you can't stop. Just notice if it brings up an unwanted energy, a clutching, a resistance, and just allow it to pass through. And more. And more. Could you let go of your entire aversion to pride? If there's any resistance to saying "yes," let go of resisting, let go of clutching, and just allow that energy to pass through. And more. And more. Remember it's not good, it's not bad--it's just phenomenon passing through. And more. And even more. 对抗拒的贪爱与憎恶 ATTACHMENT AND AVERSION TO RESISTANCE 现在我们来观察一下自己对抗拒的贪爱与憎恶。抗拒一直在通往波澜不惊和丰盛的道路上阻拦着我们前进的脚步,阻挠着我们做释放。所以我们来好好对付它。抗拒会带给你什么好处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全的欲望吗?你能把这些欲望都放下吗?抗拒会给你带来什么坏处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全的欲望吗?你能把这些欲望都放下吗?抗拒会给你带来什么好处?这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全妥当吗?你能把这些想要都放下吗?抗拒会给你带来什么坏处?这会让你觉得想要被认同、想要控制或是想要安全妥当吗?你能把这些想要都放下吗?抗拒还会带给你什么好处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制或想要安全的欲望吗?你能把这些欲望都放下吗?抗拒还会给你带来什么坏处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望或是想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些欲望都放下吗? 好,再问一遍:抗拒会给你带来什么好处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望或是想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些都放下吗?抗拒会给你带来什么坏处?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望或是想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些欲望都放下吗? Now let's take a look at our attachment and aversion to resistance. Resistance really stops us from going all the way, to just letting go and going all the way to imperturbability and having abundance. It's all resistance. So let's take a look at it. What advantage is it for you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what disadvantage is it for you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of those wants? What advantage is it for you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And what disadvantage is it for you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of those wants? And what's another advantage of you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either one of those wants? And what's another disadvantage of you to resist? Does it bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of any or all of these wants? Now one more: What advantage is it to you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of any or all of these wants? And what disadvantage is it to you to resist? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And whichever want it stirs up, could you let that go? 现在我们来问一下自己“榨柠檬”的问题。想象你永远、永远都不能再抗拒任何事了,即使你很想也不行。垂下头,看这想法是否激起了一股无用能量。你能把抗拒背后的这股能量释放掉吗?允许它浮上表面,然后穿过你离开?想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再抗拒任何事了,你就是不能这样做了。就让那股能量上浮吧——那种你胸腹之间的抗拒感——就让它穿过你离开。你不是机器人,你任何时候都能做到的,只要你下定决心。就让那能量穿过你离去吧。想象你永远、永远、永远都不能再抗拒任何事了,你失去了这样做的能力。如果这想法让你产生了一种紧抓不放的、不舒服的感觉,那么就让那能量上浮离开吧。 你能否把自己对抗拒的所有贪爱都放下呢?如果你在说“是”的时候感到困难,就垂下头去感知那里的抗拒感和紧抓感,然后让那股能量上浮离开。 你能否把自己对抗拒的所有贪爱都放下呢?只要让那股能量浮上表面就好。还有什么让你说不出“是”吗?就让它一同上浮离开吧。 And now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question. Imagine never, ever being able to resist again. You can't do it if you wanted to. Put your head down and see if that brings up an unwanted energy. Could you let go of that resisting energy? Just allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. Imagine never, ever, ever being able to resist again. You can't do it. Allow that energy to come up--that resistance in your stomach or your chest area--and allow it to pass through. You're not on automatic. You can do it when you decide to do it. Just let the energy pass through. Imagine never, ever being able to resist again. You lost the ability. If that brings up a clutching, an uncomfortable feeling, then just allow that energy to pass through. And could you let go of your entire attachment to resistance? If you're having difficulty saying "yes," put your head down and notice if there's a resistance, a clutching, and just allow that energy to come up and pass through. And could you let go of your entire attachment to resistance? Just allow that energy to come up. Anything stopping you from saying "yes?" Let it come up and allow it to pass through. 对抗拒的憎恶 AVERSION TO RESISTANCE 现在我们来对抗拒做一下憎恶练习吧。你喜欢抗拒的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望以及想要分离的冲动吗?你能否把这些都放下呢?释放更多,越多越好。你讨厌抗拒的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望以及想要分离的冲动吗?你还喜欢抗拒的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望以及想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些“想要”都放下吗?你讨厌抗拒的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望以及想要分离的冲动吗?你能把它们都放下吗?你还喜欢抗拒的哪一点呢?这会激起你想要被认同、想要控制和想要安全的欲望以及想要分离的冲动吗?你能把这些都放下吗? 现在我们要开始问“榨柠檬”的问题了。想象你永远都要抗拒任何事,一直这样下去,无法停止。垂下头,看这是否激发起了一股无用能量。是紧抓感吗?是抗拒感吗?你能否只是把这股能量放下呢?就让它浮上表面,让它穿过你离开。它不好也不坏,只不过是路过的现象。想象你永远都要抗拒任何事,一直这样下去,无法停止。看这想法是否激起了一股无用能量,然后就让这能量上浮离开吧。 And now let's do the aversion to resistance. What do you like about resistance? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of any or all of these wants? And more. And more. And what don't you like about resistance? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? Now what do you like about resistance? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of these wants? And what don't you like about resistance? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of these wants? And, again, what do you like about resistance? Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control, safety or separation? And could you let go of any or all of these wants? Now let's ask the "squeezing the lemon" question. Imagine always resisting-- all the time. You can't stop. Put your head down and see if that brings up an unwanted energy. Is there a clutching, a resistance? And could you just let go of that energy? Just allow it to come up. Just allow it to leave. It's not good, it's not bad, it's just passing through. Imagine always resisting, all the time. You can't stop. See if that brings up an unwanted energy and just allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. 再一遍:想象你永远都要抗拒任何事,无法停止,而且你会被一堆同样在抗拒的人包围。看这想法是否激起了你紧抓不放的感觉。垂下头,去注意那股你胸腹之间的无用能量,然后让它上浮离开吧。你能把自己对抗拒的所有憎恶都放下吗?有什么在干扰着你说“是”吗?请你垂下头,看那里是否又有了一种紧抓不放的感觉,然后就让其背后的那股能量浮上表面、自行离开吧。你能把自己对抗拒的所有憎恶放下吗?就让那能量上浮离开吧。有什么在阻拦着你说“是”吗?感受它,然后让它穿过你离开吧。 One more time: Imagine always resisting all the time. You can't stop. And you're surrounded by people who are resisting. See if that brings up a clutching. Put your head down. Notice the unwanted energy in your stomach or chest. Allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. And could you let go of your entire aversion to resisting? Could you let go of your entire aversion to resistance? Anything stopping you from saying "yes?" Just put your head down, see if there's a clutching and just allow that energy to come up and allow it to pass through. And could you let go of your entire aversion to resistance? And just allow that energy to come up. Anything stopping you from saying "yes?" Feel it, and just allow it to pass through. |