第二十八章 特殊的释放方法 CHAPTER TWENTY-EIGHT SPECIAL RELEASING PROCESSES “随着头脑安静下来,首先,拥有的感觉会衰减,直到你感受到一种安全感。为了保持自己的存在感的拥有会显得越来越不那么必需和重要。然后,行动者的感觉会变弱,直到你感受到一种更深远的安全感,这感觉来源于你认识到个人并非真正的执行者,真正的执行者是一种更高级的力量,来源于你认识到人不去做很多东西也能活得很好,而这样的话为了感受到自己的存在而做的事又变得必须了。最终,你那一直隐藏在幕后的真我会出现,并重新取得控制权,你会感到没有什么看上去再那么必需、你不得不做或不能不有了,没有什么选择不选择的,只要好好活着、存在着就好了。”——莱斯特·利文森 “As the mind gets quiet, first the sense of havingness decreases until a measure of security is felt. It becomes less necessary to have in order to be. Then the sense of doership decreases until a further security is felt in that one is not the real doer, that the real doer is a high power, that one can actually be with much less doing and it becomes necessary to do in order to be. Finally, your real Self that has always been in the background steps in and takes over and you feel that there is nothing necessary any more that you must have or do, that there is no choice but to only be!" Lester Levenson 针对“镜子练习”进行释放 RELEASING ON THE MIRROR EXERCISE 看看你在镜子练习中感觉如何,是否有什么东西被扰动激发了。如果你还没做镜子练习,我强烈建议你现在做一些。它非常、非常地有用。当你望向镜子中的自己时,看看心里是否有什么东西被扰动激发了,是想要被认同的欲望吗?是想要控制的欲望吗?还是想要安全妥当的欲望呢?那么你能否把这些欲望都放下呢?然后再感受一下看着镜子时的感觉,是否紧抓感和抗拒感也被激起了?你能把那根神奇的管子插入无用能量中,然后只是允许它离开吗? 然后回想或感受一下你在看着镜子的时候还有什么感觉被激起了。这激起了你想要被认同、想要控制、或是想要安全的欲望吗?你能否把这些欲望放下呢?释放更多,越多越好。再看看,还有什么别的感觉被激发吗,在你看着镜子的时候?这让你感到想要被认同、想要控制、或是想要安全吗?你对于看着镜子里的自己感受如何呢?感受一下或是回想一下吧,是否又紧抓感或是抗拒感被激发了?你能否把那根神奇的管子插进无用能量里,然后只是允许它上浮离开呢?感受一下,当你看着镜子,或是刻意不看镜子的时候,有什么东西被激发了吗?那会让你想要被认同、想要控制、或是想要安全吗?你能把这些“想要”都放下吗?放吧,放吧,越多越好。 See how you feel about the mirror exercise. See if anything got stirred up. If you haven't done the mirror exercise, I strongly suggest that you do it right now. It's highly, highly valuable. And see if anything got stirred up about looking in the mirror. Did it bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of either wanting approval, control or safety? And see how you feel about having looked in the mirror or looking in the mirror. See if it brings up a clutching, a resistance. Could you put the tube into that energy and just allow it to pass through? And see if there are any other feelings that got stirred up about looking in the mirror or not looking in the mirror. Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let those wants go? And more. And even more. And even more. And see if anything got stirred up about looking in the mirror. Did it bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And see how you feel about having looked in the mirror even if you haven't looked. See if it brings up a clutching or resistance. Could you put the tube into that energy and just allow it to pass through? And see if there's any other feelings that got stirred up about looking in the mirror or not looking in the mirror. Does that bring up a wanting of approval, control or safety? And could you let go of wanting approval, control or safety? And more. And more. And even more. 针对“情书练习”进行释放 RELEASING ON THE LOVE LETTER 现在,看看你对给自己的情书感受如何吧,不管你写没写。看看它是否勾起了某些感受——想要被认同、想要控制、或是想要安全。你能否把这些“想要”都放下呢?感受一下,给自己写情书是否勾起了某种紧抓不放的感觉或是抗拒感,然后就让那股能量上浮离开吧,它自己也是想要离开的。爱是你的自然状态,所以,做自己就好了。把那些阻碍着你,让你无法百分之百爱自己的因素都放下吧。看“爱自己”这种想法是否激起了什么东西?是否勾起了紧抓感或抗拒感?就允许那能量上浮离开吧。 还记得那张情绪表格吗?在“接纳”那一栏,第一个词就是“丰盛”。我们现在做的就是向着丰盛——爱自己——接纳前进,越来越近。当你接纳自己、爱自己时,就把自己敞开了,向丰盛之流张开了怀抱。你就会允许任何事轻轻松松地降临到你身上。你不会有任何抗拒和抵触。你就只是允许各种美好的事发生。如果你能够领悟到这一层,就只是允许事情发生,你就会发现你其实什么也不必做,就只是允许事情自然发生。如果你做得到,事情就真的能如你所愿发生。 Now see how you feel about the love letter you wrote or didn't write. See if that brought up any feelings--a wanting of approval, control or safety. And could you let go of any or all of those wants? And see if writing a love letter to yourself brings up a clutching, a resistance, and just allow that energy to come up and pass through. It wants to leave. Love is your natural state. Just be yourself. Let go of anything that's blocking you from loving yourself 100%. See if anything got stirred up about loving yourself. Did it bring up a clutching or resistance? Just allow that energy to come up and pass through. Remember the Chart of Emotions? Well, under Acceptance, the first word that shows up is "abundance." What we've been doing is moving closer and closer toward abundance--Ioving ourselves--acceptance. And when you're accepting of yourself and loving yourself, you're opening up the flow of abundance. You'll be allowing everything to happen to you with ease. You'll have no resistance. In that place, you're no longer guilty, you're not resisting and you're not clutching. You're just allowing everything good to happen. If you can pick up on that feeling--that energy--and just allow things to happen, you'll find that you won't need to do anything but allow it to happen. If you can, it will happen. 特别的清理 THE SPECIAL CLEANUP 现在我们要做一种特别的清理练习。这个练习本来是莱斯特设计出来给释放法教师们的,让他们边教边释放。我觉得这个练习对你们来说也很有用。它是在开会前后清理情绪的绝佳工具,也是清理与家人、朋友之间人际关系的好方法。所以,现在回想一件最近你与某人之间发生的事,也许是以冲突结尾的某件事。现在回想那个人的脸,那个人曾试着控制你么?如果这激起了你的紧抓感或抗拒感,就只是允许那股能量穿过你离开吧。垂下头,允许它离开,它自己也是想要离开的。那个人曾试着去控制你么?看这是否会激起你的抗拒感或是紧抓感,然后就只是让那股能量离开吧。记住:不要为了别人而释放,而是为自己而释放。既然你已经有了一个能够让你时时刻刻感觉都很好的方法,何必再让自己继续感觉糟糕呢?就用那个方法就好了啊。你是否也曾试着反过去控制那个人呢?有吗?如果这也会在你胸腹之间激起一股无用能量——就只是允许它穿过你离开吧。 你现在是否能允许那个人就是他那个样子呢?如果你还觉得紧抓不放或是抗拒不已,就允许那股能量上浮离开吧。记住:不要为了别人释放,为你自己释放。放下那股无用能量,这样你自己感觉也会变好,不是吗?你是不是不喜欢或不认同那个人身上的某些东西?如果这会激起一种紧抓感、抗拒感,就允许那股能量穿越离开吧。无论有什么被激发搅起了,你能否把它放下、让它离开呢?那个人是不是不喜欢或者不认同你身上的某些东西呢?那个人是不是不喜欢或者不认同你身上的什么东西呢?如果这在你心里激起了一种感受、一种紧抓感、一种抗拒感,就让它穿过你离开吧。 Now we're going to do a special cleanup. This is a cleanup that Lester designed for teachers of the Release Technique to allow them to be released when teaching. I thought it would be valuable for you to have it. It's an excellent way of cleaning up before going to meetings and after meetings, as well as having relationships with people, family and friends. So think of an incident in your life that you've had with someone recently. Maybe it resulted in confrontation. Now get that person's face in your mind. Did that person try to control you? If it brings up a clutching or resistance, then just allow that energy to pass through. Put your head down and allow it to pass through. It wants to leave. Did that person try to control you? See if it brings up a resistance or clutching and just allow that energy to pass through. Remember: Don't release for them, release for you. Why should you feel bad when you have a method for feeling good all the time? Just use it. Did you try to control that person back? Did you? If it brings up an unwanted energy in your stomach or chest--just allow it to pass through. Do you now grant that person the right to be as they are? If you have any clutching or resistance, just allow that energy to come up and pass through. Remember: Don't do it for them, do it for you. Let the energy go so you can feel good, OK? Did you dislike or disapprove of anything in that person? If it brings up a clutching, a resistance, just allow that energy to pass through. Do you or did you dislike or disapprove of anything in that person? Could you let go of whatever gets stirred up and allow it to leave? Did that person dislike or disapproveof anything in you? Did or does that person dislike or disapprove of anything in you? And if that stirs up a feeling, a clutching, a resistance, just allow it to pass through. 你现在是否对那个人只怀有爱意呢?如果你还感到抗拒或紧抓不放,就让那股能量浮上表面吧。垂下头,允许那股能量上浮离开吧。你现在是否对那个人只怀有爱意呢?就把关于他的那些困扰你的东西放下吧。那个人曾经挑战过你吗?反对过你吗?还是威胁过你呢?如果这也会在你心里激起一股紧抓感或是抗拒感,就让那股能量穿越离开吧。垂下头,允许它冒出来。那个人曾经挑战过你吗?曾经反对过你吗?曾经威胁过你吗?就只是让那股能量穿过你离开吧。那么,你曾经反过来挑战他吗?你曾经反过来反对他吗?你曾经反过来威胁他吗?如果有的话,你现在能不能把那些也一同放下呢?并且把随之产生的紧抓感或是抗拒感一并释放掉。允许那股能量离开,它自己也是想要离开的。你现在是否对那个人只怀有幸福感、安全感和信任感呢?如果这激起了一种紧抓不放的感觉——一种内在的抗拒感——就允许它穿越离开吧。 你是否曾经拒绝过那个人?你是否曾经与那个人断绝来往?不管是以什么形式,你是否曾经试着与那个人分离开来?如果这激起了一种紧抓感或是抗拒感,你现在能否把它放下呢?那个人是否曾经拒绝过你呢?他是否曾与你断绝来往?不管以什么形式,他是否也曾试着与你分离?不管怎样的能量被激起了,就允许它穿越离开吧。现在你是否对那个人只感到“你就是我”?如果你感到抗拒或是紧抓不放——任何在你胸腹之间盘桓的无用能量——就允许它穿越离开吧。 Do you now only have a feeling of love for that person? If there's any resistance or clutching, just allow it to come up. Put your head down and allow that energy to come up and pass through. Do you now have only a feeling of love for that person? Just let go of anything that bothers you about that person. And did that person challenge, oppose or threaten you? If it brings up a clutching, a resistance, just allow that energy to pass through. Put your head down and allow it to come out. Did that person challenge, oppose or threaten you? Just let the energy pass through. And did you challenge, oppose or threaten that person back? If so, could you now let it go? Just let go of clutching and resistance. Allow that energy to leave. It wants to leave. Do you only have a feeling of well-being, safety and trust for that person now? If it brings up a c1utching--an internal resistance-- just allow it to pass through. Did you reject, cut off or in any way try to be separate from that person? And if it brings up a clutching or resistance, could you now let it go? And did that person reject, cut off or in any way try to be separate from you? And if it brings up a resistance, a clutching, could you just let it go? Did that person reject, cut off or in any way try to be separate from you? Whatever energy gets stirred up, just allow it to pass through. Do you now have only a feeling of "you are me" for that person? If there's any resistance or c1utching--any unwanted energy in your stomach or chest--just allow it to pass through. 现在,再回想一下那个人的脸,然后只感受到爱意。对于他,你是否能感觉到一种“你就是我”的感受?如果还有其他感觉产生了,就回到最开始,继续对这个人做释放。你也许想回到这个练习的开头,然后再问一遍这些问题。你是否依然想要控制那个情境里各种事情的走向?如果是的话,你能否把想要控制的这种欲望放下呢?你无法真正地改变那些已经发生的事,不过你可以把你对它的感受释放掉。你是否依然想要控制那一天发生的种种事?你能否把那种排斥抗拒感放下、让那股能量离开呢?你是否想让那些事——就算不是所有的——获得认可?如果是的话,你能否把这种想要被认同的欲望放下?就把这种匮乏感放下吧——允许它上浮离开。你是不是还想要控制你在那次事件中的所作所为?如果是的话,你能否把这种想要控制的欲望放下?就允许它永远留在你的过去,把它放下吧。 你是否希望那件事情中的你、或者涉及到的其他任何人获得认同呢?你能否把这种想要被认同的欲望——这种匮乏感——放下呢?那次事件中,想要生存的欲望也被搅起了吗?如果是的话,就垂下头,允许那股能量上浮离开吧。把那种想要生存、想要安全放下吧,把它释放掉。你是否想要与这个人分离?这其实又是一种匮乏感了。把这种想要分离的欲望放下吧——就允许它穿过你离开。看看现在你对那个人、那个情境或是那件事感受如何?如果你还感觉被什么困扰着,就允许它上浮离开吧。你也许想回到这个练习的开头,再从头来一遍。 Now look at the face of this person and feel only love. Do you have a feeling of "you are me" for that person? If there are any other feelings, go back to the beginning and continue to release on this person. You might want to go back to the beginning of this exercise and start the questions again. Would you still like to control the way anything happened in that situation? If so, could you let go of wanting to control it? You can't really change something once it's happened, but you can let go of the way you feel about it. Would you like to control the way your day went? Could you let go of resisting and let it pass through? Would you like approval for the way the day went--or any part of it? And if so, could you let go of wanting approval? Let that lacking feeling go--just allow it to come up and pass through. Would you still like to control anything you did in this incident? And if so, could you let go of wanting to control it? Just allow it to be something in the past and let it go. Are you wanting any approval for yourself or any of the people involved in that incident? Could you let go of wanting approval--that lacking feeling? Is there still any wanting of survival that got stirred up in this incident? If so, you’re your head down and just allow that energy to come up. Let go of wanting to surviveand/or wanting to be safe. Just let it go. Is there any wanting to be separate from that person? It's that lacking feeling again. Let go of wanting to be separate—just allow it to pass through. See how you feel about that person, situation and/or incident. If there's anything bothering you, just allow it to come up and pass through. You may want to go back to the beginning of this exercise and start again. 加速的特殊释放法 AN ACCELARA TED SPECIAL RELEASE 以下这个方法是被设计为大力加速你对释放法的应用的。它由一系列问题组成,你可以在开会之前、特别是会上有某些很难搞的人的时候,问自己这些问题。在你与家人或是朋友相聚前问问自己这些问题也是很有用的。实际上,任何需要与别人交流互动的情境下这个方法都会有用。 随着你对这些问题的运用,你将会看到它如何帮助你改进你的人际关系,让你与别人更高效地交流沟通,让你更容易地解决冲突,让你更容易地把释放融入你的生活。这些问题也将极大地提高你的沟通效率,让你与他人的互动显得更真诚。 这里有三组问题,分别针对一个欲望。首先是想要控制的欲望,然后是想要被认同的欲望,然后是想要安全的欲望。 The following process has been designed to greatly accelerate your use of the Release Technique. It is made up of a series of questions which can be asked before or after meetings, especially if these are with difficult people. These can also work for gatherings with your family or friends--in fact, any situation that involves interaction with other people. As you work with these questions, you will see they help you improve your relationships, communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts and incorporate releasing more easily into your life. They will also greatly improve your effectiveness and contribute to the integrity of all your interactions. There are three groups of questions. Each focuses on a separate want. First control--then approval--then security. 你可以按下面的指示来运用这些问题: *回想并集中注意力于那个你想要对其释放的人的脸。 *每次问自己一个问题,允许那些问题把你的欲望拽到表面上。你可能会经常注意到,就算只是问自己这些问题,都会让你同时释放掉一些相应的欲望。 *每一组的第三个问题是用来帮助你检查自己是否已经把与那个人相关的欲望释放殆尽了。不停问自己每组的前两个问题,不管什么东西被激发了都把它释放掉,直到你对于第三个问题能给出一个诚实的肯定答案。 *按顺序进行那几组问题,在你能够允许那个人就是他所是的那个样子之前,不要往下进行。很多情况下,这就是一个决定,是否要释放至那个完整的状态。如果你对它已经持开放态度了,就有可能很快就走到那一步的。 *按顺序进行每组问题,以同样的方式。当你看着那些人的脸能够只感受到爱意时,就能知道你已经对他完全释放干净了。 The way to work with these questions is as follows: *Focus on (visualize) the face of the person you would like to release about. *Ask yourself one question at a time and allow the question to surface your wants. You may often notice that just asking yourself the question will cause you to spontaneously release the want you are focusing on at the moment. *The third question in each set is designed to help you see if you are fully released on the want about that individual. Keep asking yourself the first two questions in each set and release whatever is stirred up until you can honestly answer yes to the third question. *Start with the set of questions on control and say with that set until you grant that person the right to be the way they are. This often is just a decision to release to completion. It is possible to get to this point very quickly if you are open to it. *Do the same thing with each set of questions in order. You'll know when you are fully released on a person when you can see their face and have only love for them. 清理问题 CLEANUP QUESTIONS 1、 那个人曾经试图控制我吗? 我曾经试着控制那个人吗? 我现在能不能允许他就是他现在所是的那个样子呢? 重复这些问题,直到你能给出一个肯定的答案。 1. Did that person try to control me? Did I try to control this person? Do I now grant this person the right to be as they are? Repeat these questions until you do. 2、 我曾经不喜欢或不认同那个人身上的某些东西吗? 那个人曾经不喜欢或不认同我身上的某些东西吗? 我对这个人是否只怀有爱意呢? 重复这些问题,直到你能给出一个肯定的答案。 2. Did I dislike or disapprove of anything in this person? Did this person dislike or disapprove of anything in me? Do I have only love feelings for this person? Repeat these questions until you do. 3、 这个人曾经挑战、反对、或是威胁我吗? 我曾经挑战、反对、或是威胁这个人吗? 当我与这个人在一起的时候,我是否只感到一种幸福感——一种安全与信任的感觉呢? 重复这些问题,直到你能给出一个肯定的答案。 3. Did this person challenge, oppose or threaten me? Did I challenge, oppose or threaten this person? Do I have only a feeling of well-being--a feeling of safety and trust--with this person? Repeat these questions until you do. 看着那些你按照上面的方法释放过的人的脸,感受你对他们的爱意——只有爱意,只有一种“你就是我”的感觉。如果还有其他感觉残留下来,就从头再来,回到那些问题。 Look at the face of each person you are working on and feel only love for them--only a feeling of "you are me" for that person. If there are any other feelings, go back to the questions. |